Never Slam Someone’s Family Members or Romantic Partners

The brutal truth can ruin a friendship

Christine Schoenwald
6 min readSep 2, 2022
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If Marcel’s partner, Ritchie, was only a sloppy drunk, I could have tolerated him.

But drinking to excess turned out to be Ritchie’s most endearing quality.

Ritchie was always dialed up to twenty, loud and obnoxious. He treated Marcel like crap with snide insults and obvious hookups with other men.

Marcel loved Ritchie, and if I wanted to spend time with Marcel, Ritchie was part of the equation.

Don’t you hate it when your friends are involved with awful people, and there’s nothing you can do about it?

I couldn’t stand Marcel when I first met him.

We’d both started working at the bank around the same time, and I thought he was full of himself and pompous.

He was a tall, robust, professional opera singer who wore brightly patterned sweaters and could read you like the best drag queens out there.



Christine Schoenwald

Writer for The Los Angeles Times, Salon, Next Avenue, Business Insider, and Your Tango