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When my cat died, I called my mother expecting sympathy since she loves animals. However, since it wasn’t her cat, she breezed right over his death and went right on to talking about herself.

Once again, I’d taken a gamble on a narcissist’s basic humanity and lost. I’ve learned to keep my expectations low. I didn’t expect her to comfort me or offer me any care, but a tiny bit of understanding would have been helpful

As a child of a narcissistic parent, I’ve learned there are limits within a narcissist’s heart. The best decision is to always keep my…


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I like to use my birthday as a day to reflect on how far I’ve come and what I need to do to achieve new or existing goals in the future, something like the way people do on New Year’s.

A birthday is the start of a new year, and even though this year isn’t a particularly significant one, I’m trying to make it as meaningful as possible.

I’ve got some fun activities planned to revolve around things I love, such as the beach, cats, afternoon tea, and friends. …


Uri is considering his options. Photo by author.

If you were a tiny kitten and a huge human blasted you with water, almost drowning you in the process, you’d have a reason not to want anything to do with humans.

The water incident happened to our cat, Uri, and while it took him a few months at the shelter to warm up to people, he’s now a complete lovebug and seems to have no ill will towards the two-legged.

I’m not over what happened to him, but Uri seems to be.

Cats have various degrees of memory, but you’d think an act of extreme cruelty would be imprinted…


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Congratulations on being your own boss; that’s a major achievement! While there are many positives in owning a business, there are also some issues you may have overlooked. If they don’t get fixed, you may find those annoying details morphing into major concerns.

There’s no Human Resources Department you can go to with your complaints when you work for yourself. If there’s a problem, you have to handle it yourself.

Since your job is your business, you may not be as compassionate to yourself as you would be to an employee. …


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I have no hesitation when it comes to CBD gummies — if I feel I need one, I take one. But when I was young, I had a lot of anxiety about weed, hash, or any mind-altering substance.

This story begins with me using the train bathroom while it was still stopped at the station in Belgium, which is quite possibly illegal. I had somehow missed the notice forbidding toilet use as I went in.

After doing my business, I exited only to find my friends who had been waiting outside, laughing their asses off — causing my paranoia to…


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One woman I know went from being a clerk in a store to becoming an executive at a major film studio. At the same time, another worked in a factory and ended up as a creative director at Apple. A third began his career as a fast-food worker and became a CFO of several billion-dollar companies.

Neither of these people had anything handed to them — they worked hard to make it. They all came from completely different backgrounds and, on the surface, had very little in common.

But there are some personality traits that they share and share with…


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In the movie “Wine Country,” Amy Poehler’s Abby sleeps with a CPAP machine. It’s an interesting detail for the general idea that CPAP users are older, overweight, and male.

However, Amy’s character was a CPAP user, and she is one too. She even used her own CPAP machine, the Philips Respironics Dreamstation, in the movie.

Amy said in an NPR interview, “I’ve always been a terrible sleeper. I performed most of my career incredibly sleep-deprived. And when I — really, it’s the best thing I’ve ever done for my health. …


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His idea for our first meeting was a little unusual. Instead of getting to know each other over a Skinny Latte at Starbucks, he thought it might be better if he came over to my apartment, removed his clothes, and jerked off in front of me.

I had to admit, having a stranger masturbate in my living room is an ice-breaker; I’m the kind of girl who wants dinner and a show, not just a “let me show you mine.”

He was very specific on how it would all go down, specifically that there would be no going down, no…


Carlos and the CD collection. Photo by author.

I intentionally didn’t use the word make in the title of this piece, as in make your cat like you. If I used make, it would sound as if I was advocating you force your cat to like you better, and that’s the last thing I’m trying to do.

There’s no way you can make a cat love you — if you try, it will do the opposite, and the cat will despise you for life.

I understand how frustrating and disheartening it can be when your cat appears indifferent to you or, even worse, seems to have an active…


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I’m not a musician or a singer, but I’ve had a music-filled life. From the time I was a preteen to now, I’ve enjoyed seeing some of my favorite artists perform live. I’ve been to some amazing shows and some terrible ones.

I’ve forgotten some of the shows I’ve seen, while others are embedded in my memory. Here are the concerts that I’ll never forget, whether it’s the circumstances or the performance, something about them was extraordinary.

Commander Cody & His Lost Planet Airmen

If you’ve never heard of Commander Cody, don’t feel alone, I didn’t know who he or they were either when I was twelve…

Christine Schoenwald

Writer for The Los Angeles Times, Salon, The Startup, Tenderly, Fearless She Wrote, MuddyUm. Christineschoenwaldwriter.com

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