You don’t just like cats; you love all the cats!!

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Cats are having their moment right now. And with the popularity of TikTok videos, Instagram, and other social media outlets, the demand for more cat content will most likely continue.

Before, being identified as a cat person carried some shame with it. As if loving cats was only something someone unbalanced and lonely would be. Now, however, it’s cool, at least that’s what I tell myself.

You are a fan of cats, and you might as well embrace it!

1. A cat person loves all cats, not just their cat or a certain kind of cat.

If you love your cat but could take or leave any other cat, then you’re not a cat person. Cat people…


You don’t have to be a fan of tea to enjoy a tea-party.

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I’ve been a tea-drinker my entire life, even when the tea I was drinking wasn’t tea at all. When I was a little girl, I’d have tea parties where I served apple-juice to my stuffed animals and my two cats, Boris and Mary. As I grew up, I switched to drinking tea with actual people.

Over the years, I’ve become a true tea aficionado and delighted in having afternoon tea in fancy hotels, tea rooms, tea shops, and tea houses.

Often, I’d have tea parties in my home for tea-baby-showers, holiday teas, and something we called “Writing and Tea,” which…


Make sure there are other women in your life to inspire you.

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We all need someone to look up to and emulate as we grow up. Someone to show us a way forward and inspire us to be better versions of ourselves. When we get older, we may also need role-models to embody the qualities we desire in ourselves.

Many women make excellent role-models: Michelle Obama, Beyoncé, or Malala Yousafzai, to name just a few. But role-models aren’t always famous or iconic.

In many cases, our mothers are our first female role-models. …


We adore him!!

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Carlos has some nice toe beans too! Photo by author.

Some people might judge us for getting a kitten two months after our cat Yoshi died. They might think it was premature and disrespectful to Yoshi. And a part of me thought so too.

I knew that no cat could replace Yoshi, and I was skeptical that anyone could occupy his space without causing us more pain and sadness. However, the opportunity arose to adopt him, and something told me to take it.

Carlos didn’t show up in our lives to be a place-holder. …


It’s one more step to getting them out of your life.

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Narcissists are brilliant, and they how to keep one step ahead of you at all times. It’s hard to surprise them or make a move that they don’t expect.

If you want to get from out of their control or even take back some of your power, you have to get them when they’re feeling out-of-balance and unsteady.

One of a narcissist’s survival techniques is fighting dirty without it looking harmful or mean. Let’s say your narcissist cooks you a fabulous dinner and serves it to you on a beautifully decorated table.

It looks to the outside world as if…


You may not recognize it right away.

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Carlos looking very lovey-dovey. Photo by Christine Schoenwald

Cats can be difficult to figure out. They don’t communicate the same way we do, but that doesn’t mean there’s not a lot they want to tell us, especially regarding how they feel about their people.

While it’s true some cats are more low-key in the way they show their affection, it doesn’t mean they hate or are indifferent about us.

Sure, if you compare dog-behavior to cat-behavior, some cats may seem more aloof or even snotty. …


It’s easy to get hurt if you’re completely oblivious.

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I hurt my back when I was sleeping. You know, sleeping, the one thing that we all do to refresh and recharge? Well, I managed to make it hazardous. I woke up in the morning full of pain and stiffness and had to purposely fall out of bed onto the floor so I could crawl to the bathroom.

As I’ve aged, it seems that kind of out-of-nowhere injury happens all the time, especially when I’m exercising or just not being conscious of what I’m doing.

I hurt myself and my recovery time is much longer. Sometimes, I’m not aware I’ve…


The only person you’re competing with is yourself.

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You may write alone, but that doesn’t mean that every aspect of your writing career is solo. You need to have a support system in place, people who can give you advice or suggest opportunities, and others to show you how it’s done.

There’s an unspoken expectation for anyone in the arts that you’ll support and promote others in your field. This means going to other people’s shows, looking at their art, and reading their work.

When you support others' work, the hope is they’ll return the favor and do the same for you in the future. Your support doesn’t…


She focused on commerce, not caring.

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Yoshi with a toy. Photo by author

What would you do to save a pet that you loved? If you’re like most people, you will do whatever you could, but sometimes some things prevent you from saving their lives.

When I say I loved my cat Yoshi more than anything in the world — it isn’t an exaggeration.

I’m not wealthy; I never made it in Hollywood. I’m not married or a mom, but I had a Yoshi. Not everybody gets a Yoshi, and I’m so grateful that I got to be his cat mom.

Yoshi made my life feel special.

For my boyfriend, Andy, and I…


Josie is Top Cat at our house, and she takes her job seriously.

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When Yoshi was Top Cat, he had a very claws- off approach and left everyone — including the humans to govern themselves. However, now that Josie is the boss of everyone, things have changed, and she’s a much more intense leader.

If someone doesn’t know she’s the household’s alpha cat, she lets them know fast. She has no problem giving someone a swat or biting them on the elbow to let them know they better hop to it.

Josie takes her job seriously.

Her governing body extends from the front door through the house (except for the bedroom where Allie…

Christine Schoenwald

Writer for The Los Angeles Times, Salon, The Startup, Tenderly, Fearless She Wrote, MuddyUm. Christineschoenwaldwriter.com

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